I and no other person, is ever a single authority on any subject. And I have noticed in the last year or so, that a good many people are missing even the basics.
As it happens a friend shared a link on another website, where I found some amazing resources for new people, or those who have a touch of knowledge fade – the way I see it, we NEVER stop learning, especially when we think we already know it. If you only learn one thing, that is something you didn’t already know.
I’ve been helping a lot of people on other sites, who find Fetlife over powering when they try to interact and learn from people. Not everyone learns the same way. I learn best by observation, doing and research. others learn from conversation or written assignment etc.
So for those who like to learn similar ways to myself, please use this collection of links to third party content I thought was good or useful, to get a grip of the basics. Then invest in books if you are readers, to build on the knowledge from there.
Standard pointers about manners, from traditional finishing school teachings my Grandmother (love and miss that amazing woman) passed along to myself as I grew up. So in no particular order…
1. Do to others as you would have done to yourself – meaning incase anyone doesn’t quite understand the statement as is: treat other people the way you wish to be treated.
2. It isn’t acceptable behaviour to publicly discuss your dirty laundry – meaning if things are going more than just a little sideways in your life, along the lines of cheating partners, falling out with people, arguments and similar. Don’t tell everyone you know about it, don’t sweep it under the carpet never to be discussed but remember there is always a time and place.
3. Public shaming of anyone will earn you a bad reputation, as a gossip. If you have issues with people, it’s more than likely that only having half the story you will make a public disgrace of yourself, rather than person you feel wronged you. It is better to talk to the person concerned directly, address the facts as all see them, to resolve the issue if possible or agree to disagree and move on.
There were others, that escape my distracted brain at this moment in time, (hubby is nattering my ear off hehe).
Bad manners, is like wearing a flashing sign to draw attention to yourself, pointing out that you don’t know how to behave, and your socially inept. Paraphrased from a line in the book, ‘A Butler’s Guide to Table Manners; by Nicolas Clayton’.
ETIQUETTE & PROTOCOL
Pt 6 (the last few paragraphs, focus on American military, political and flag traditions; for those else where in the world research local traditions and customs for your country) http://www.submissiveguide.com/2017/03/play-nice-so…
NEW TO BEING DOMINANT
NEW TO BEING SUBMISSIVE
I will continue to add to this as I come across other good articles and posts.